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I am going to be so mean to you. I am going to say horrible things to you. I am going to act dreadful and come up with and use the most hurtful words ever to spew at you. I will find out what your soft spots are and dig into them with cruel verbal daggers. You see I am trying to get you to abandon me ‘cuz I’m  just not worth it.  I am just a bad kid. That’s why my first family left me of course.

Dear Director,

Our adopted son is 15 now and he has been with us almost his entire life: 12 years. All of a sudden, he is talking to us with such disrespect and sabotaging happy and fun family events. We understand that he came from a tough place with serious neglect, but we don’t know what to do with this.

Please advise, Confused Parents

What is the window of tolerance exactly? Before you can learn to be aware of and actually regulate your window of tolerance, you need to understand what the window of tolerance actually is. It’s a concept named by renowned psychiatrist Dan Siegel. He defines the window of tolerance as the optimal zone of “arousal” for a person to function in everyday life. When a person is operating in this window, they can effectively manage and cope with their emotions.

Dear Director,
Our 13-year-old daughter wants to go to our local camp this summer.  I loved my time at summer camp when I was growing up but I didn’t experience all the abuse and trauma that she did.  I am worried that her past will interfere in her being able to actually participate in camp. She does well at school but gets support from the Emotional Support teachers. Please advise.
Signed, Summer is Coming